A mature leader learns to avoid black and white thinking particularly in the area of conflict between two individuals.

In adult relationships (as opposed to adult-children relationships), seldom is one person the victim and the other person the victimizer.  Most times each party shares 50% responsibility for where the relationship finds itself.

My coaching and personal experience has me constantly seeking that balance.  At times I can be overly-responsible – taking on more than 50% of the responsibility.  Then at times I can come up shy by not taking my 50% of the responsibility.

At the very least, when I complain about someone else’s behaviors towards me, I’m allowing them to do it to me.  That might be my 50% contribution.

Experience continues to demonstrate that a wise leader will accept 50% of the responsibility for where a relationship finds itself – no more and no less.

Categories: Conflict Management, Emotional Composure, Personal Responsibility, Self Responsibility, Vitality