“He shouldn’t be that way.” “She shouldn’t treat me that way.” “It shouldn’t have turned out that way.” “He shouldn’t feel that way.”

Some people live out their lives in a cement block “Should Box” – greatly limiting what they can get done in the world. They are constantly fighting the realities of situations and feel that if they ever give in to those realities, they have somehow “given up” or “lost.”

Wise leaders know when to fight to change the realities of a situation and when to instead accept the realities and begin to use their energies to answer the question “In the light of the situation’s realities what am I going to do about it?”

That’s the best question to use when trying to escape your carefully crafted “Should Box.” It is your key out.

Categories: Affiliation, Authority Relationships, Response To Change

Tags: change