When comparing yourself to another, be aware of two common traps.  First, seldom are you comparing “apples to apples.”

Consequently, you can create all types of self doubt by wondering why your career isn’t as advanced as theirs or your spouse as kind as theirs, or your children as obedient as theirs (pictures are tools that can stir extreme self doubt).The leader understands that s/he is never seeing everything when they set out on this perilous journey of comparing themselves to another so for most of the time they resist the temptation.For just as it can create discontent and self doubt, leaders understand that comparison can also create complacency (so long as you view yourself doing better than they are).  You might still not be using all of your talents to bring value to life but at least you’re doing better than “Wally.”  Now I realize that this is seldom enough for a great leader, but for a good leader it might suffice to the detriment of his/her own continued growth.Comparing yourself to another seldom achieves the results one hopes for.